Being a teenager has never been easy. And in today’s world of ever-evolving interconnectedness and social media, a teen’s personal battle for belonging and identity is more complex than ever.
It’s equally difficult for parents. The child you’ve known is becoming their own person in a climate where cultural rules and expectations have changed. Cyber-bullying, porn, and drugs and alcohol are all more accessible, and keeping a real-time relationship with family members requires intention and work.
Over 25 years working with teens as both a high school teacher and therapist means the therapeutic setting I provide for young people has stood the test of time. My practice is based on the Gestalt/Oaklander model of therapy with adolescents. I start with a genuine interest in who they are, what they know about themselves, and how they see the world.
Adolescents need to be present with someone who can hear their ideas and experiences without shame. By creating a judgment-free, open connection they can arrive at constructive goals needed for change. I make clear the first session that what we discuss stays in the room, with the exceptions of abuse and self-harm.
At the same time, teens can’t succeed without parental involvement and awareness. The critical role that parents play—the other half of helping young people—is acknowledged through key strategies. In therapy, I honor your incredible contribution to your child’s healthy development. After meeting with your son or daughter and establishing a solid connection, I have feedback sessions with parents to address issues your child asks me to bring up as well as talk in depth about your concerns. From there, your teen can process struggles in a larger context, and get to where they need to be.
Navigating the ups and downs of high school can often be difficult. I listen more than I speak so that I can fully understand your situation and reasons for seeking therapy for your teenager. Many start out nervous when it comes to therapy, but the end result is a happier, brighter child, and a better-connected family.